My Thoughts On: Negativity

After watching this episode of Bartolosophy (Youtube: BartKwan), I realized how true the underlying idea of this mini-spiel was. The concept of this kind of behavior, in my belief, arises from the act of putting other people down to make yourself feel better. No matter how complicated a situation may be, you can always, always narrow it down to this simple concept because in the end, why would you so passionately obsess over someone else's flaws?

I can say this with confidence because I too have been guilty with this kind of mentality. Sometimes, I'll look at celebrities with godly figures and just think to myself "well at least I can eat a piece of bacon without having to fear the life of my career tumbling down upon me." It may be simple as that, but the affect it has on me is always the same: relieving, gratifying, and most importantly temporary. I think that harboring these negative thoughts only help you feel good about yourself, your life, and your current situation for a short amount of time and once you realize that you're not really what you've made yourself seem to be, you channel that frustration towards being spiteful & jealous.

Sometimes, these thoughts may not be as childish as my thoughts of bacon but more intense like people who pick on other people for the littlest things that won't ever matter to them with only reasons like "that's just annoying." Obviously you care, you care enough to think & obsess over them or else you wouldn't be wasting the least bit of your energy on them. I think the hardest part is getting yourself to admit what is really going on. What good does it do to you by pointing out other people's flaws without the genuine intent of helping them fix it for the good of themselves? It makes you feel good, it makes you feel good because you've pointed out someone else's flaw that you probably don't think you have as well and evidently you've implied that you're better than them because you have one less flaw.

To me this is so juvenile, but at the same time I know I can't preach so much about it because I do it myself all the time, in my head. I know that when I don't have anything nice to say, it's better for me to just say nothing at all because for me, if I don't genuinely care about someone enough, I'm not going to waste my time, energy, and risk being in an uncomfortable situation with someone by pointing what I think they're doing wrong. I've always tried to be more careful about these things because I know that the way to feel better about yourself isn't through putting other's below you, but it's about allowing others to see you for who you are; that way when they accept you for who you are, you'll know it's genuine. 

So I think overall, your positive mindset is really important in leading a truly healthy, stress-free life. Always look to yourself for answers first before you go out and blame others & start pointing fingers because there's always something you can do to uplift your spirit. It's important to really take control of your life instead of letting others do the driving for you, even if it's easy to just sit on the passenger's seat. 

If you found this absolutely useless and untrue, you must be perfect.